I don’t do Resolutions, per se (or how I will spend 1 January)

NY blogpost

About eight years ago I started a tradition.

I take a day, early in the new year, or just before the clock turns past 12 and write the vision.

Then the Lord answered me and said,
“Write the vision
And engrave it plainly on [clay] tablets
So that the one who reads it will run.
“For the vision is yet for the appointed [future] time
It hurries toward the goal [of fulfillment]; it will not fail.
Even though it delays, wait [patiently] for it,
Because it will certainly come; it will not delay. Hab 2:2-3

Many years ago I read a story about a class who did an experiment. They were asked to come up with goals. Some wrote goals, some wrote specific goals, other just came up with them. 10 years post-graduation, of those who wrote them down and made them specific, they were wealthier and more successful than 95% of the class. That inspired me. Set your vision and make it plain.

My yearly goals aren’t simply “I will make x amount of money by x date”. I truly take this time as a period of reflection. Phone goes on flight mode, ear-cancelling headphones go on, coffee is in it’s place.

First, give thanks.

‘In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God…for you.’ I Thess 5:18

Before we can reflect we should give thanks that you’re still here. We aren’t promised more than today and we survived another year.

Then, I get into it…

This is a time to reflect on the year. A time to celebrate what I achieved. A time to think back on where I could have improved. It is a time to see how I was challenged and what I learned. It is a time to think about who I want to spend more time with in the coming year and who may need to step out of my life in the forthcoming season. It is a time to think, pray and ponder over the word or words that will govern my life in the next year. It is a time to set specific goals financially, spiritually and for my health. It is a time to ask God to breathe into my plans, to take away that which will not benefit me in the next season. It is a time to ask Him for whose life I need to speak into. It is a time to be silent.

I then write it all down. I don’t give myself a limit. I don’t stress. I simply write.

Then, after it’s all unconsciously and metaphorically, on the table…I begin to define. Some things stay in my notebook, others become real in terms of setting dates and making plans to fulfil goals.

It’s a process, but it is one that I not only look forward to, but also find to be some of the best therapy of the year.

You see, it’s easy to look back on a year and forget. We see that which has impacted us the hardest or most powerfully. We see our flaws, instead of our victories.

This small chunk of my year has become sacred and I hope that it will become a part of your year too.

How to be a Badass

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2015. You really surprised me. You brought some of the most challenging moments of my entire life. You stripped me bare. You revealed parts of me that I had hidden away and some I had never known. You made me cling to my God and to shake people from my life. You gave me the drive to change my life. You are a year I want to say “get behind me” and yet I know that so much was taught to me.

So, 2015. I thank you. Thank you that you are almost done. Thank you that you showed me that I am stronger than I have ever been. Thank you for teaching me to be a badass.

Ultimately we all understand that circumstances happen to us, but they need not hurt us, they can define us.

2016 is going to be one of those culmination years. It will be a year where all that the last four years, all the difficulties, the sowing, the pushing through, will bring the harvest. How do I know this? Because I will make it happen. I am going to be a badass…but how?

“To win battles you need to have the right strategies and resources because victories are not by accident” -The War Room

  1. I am going to fill myself with good. “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:31b-32. If it means pasting post it notes up in every inch of my room I know that when I hear the voice of the one who created me, I am inspired and know my value and worth.
  2. I will fall on my knees. Maybe not always literally, but I have learned that in the most difficult times of my life, if I pause and, even in a whisper, surrender my moments to God, I am filled with peace.
  3. I will stop listening to the voices. Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” John 4:7 We all have a purpose on our lives and the greatest battle we face is that of the devil trying to stop us. But the battle has already been won and we simply need to stop the voices, whether they’re in our heads or from the critics. I am really great at going to the dark places in my mind, and sometimes I pause there, sometimes I allow it to fuel my creativity, but I never allow it to take me down. Allow the dark to fuel the fight, not to consume.
  4. I will seek inspiration in the every day. Whether it’s a good book, a long walk, a sweat-filled work out, or even dancing around the house to a good song, I choose to seek out what will drive me forward.
  5. I will learn to be vulnerable. I think one of my greatest lessons I have learned is to be more open. One of my favorite parts of this year was meeting someone who brought out aspects of me I didn’t share with a lot of people. It was only in the letting go of everything that I was able to trust this person enough to, in turn, get to know myself better. I stopped thinking of how I should act or what should happen and allowed myself to be. I hope that 2016 will bring more vulnerability.

Being a badass may look very different to you. To me a badass will mean being a woman who doesn’t doubt her confidence. Who continues to find her value in Christ. Who doesn’t care if people don’t think she is their cup of tea. Who finds the beauty in the waiting and in the truth. She finds freedom in understanding that she is an onion waiting to be peeled, layer by layer and it’s okay to only allow some people to see each of those layers. She is a badass because she loves unconditionally.

I hope that I can inspire you, even a little, to be a badass, whatever that means to you.