It feels like home to me…
Just know you’re not alone, Cause I’m going to make this place your home…
Another aeroplane, another sunny place, I’m lucky, I know. But I wanna go home, Mmmm, I’ve got to go home…
Ahh, Home…Let me come Home…Home is wherever I’m with you (2x)
La la la la, take me Home, Baby, I’m coming Home…
There is no place like HOME.
I think that HOME just might be important to people…
So, what is home?
What does it mean to you?
When you see the word home, when the word passes your lips do floods of warm memories of your childhood home come flooding in? Or perhaps bad memories engulf your thoughts? Perhaps the immediate image is that of the kitchen you had today’s morning coffee in, or the apartment in the last city you lived in. It may even be that home has many meanings to you.
Before I continue on, I’ll give you a bit of my story. I was raised in British Columbia, Canada. My parents worked full-time so I was raised by a village and subsequently I had many houses to live in: my grandparents, my baby-sitter’s and my own house. We then moved into a new house at 13 and at 18 I moved across the country to attend university. There I first lived in residence halls, then in a house then apartment with friends. Meanwhile my parents had divorced and were living in separate houses with new spouses. My belongings packed up and stored. Shortly after university I moved to England where in seven years I lived in 5 different housing situations, mostly with friends but once on my own. I have since moved to Stockholm and live in an apartment with two others who, before I moved in, were strangers and I plan to eventually move in with a friend.
Woah, now that’s a mouthful, but hang on with me…
If HOME is a building, something I attach myself, my memories, my life too then what happens of my heart when that changes? Am I left with no home? Or a permanent sense of belonging? I say no.
When someone asks me where home is I really do not have an answer. This question is usually paired with, well, where is home? I can’t really say Canada because that’s not the entire story. If I say London, I get a look wondering where my accent is and if I said Germany (where I hold citizenship) I have to explain that I have never lived there.
So…do I have a home?
Home, to me is a not a place, it’s not a person, it’s not even a place that is permanent.
Some say that home is where the heart is…and if that’s the case my home is in Canada, Australia, New Zealand, The United States, Germany, England and Sweden. My heart is in all those places. I have friends and family, each of whom have a piece of my heart.
So, to me, home is more than where my heart is. Home is a state of mind. It’s a place where I may have lived; it’s a place where I have loved. It’s a place where I am safe and protected and secure.
Home is not a permanent fixture. The first house I ever lived in on Peacock Place is not “home”. At least not the only home I have had. It is a place where memories lie dormant but it’s not complete understanding of home to me.
For some, you may never leave your childhood city or even move out of the home you grew up in (who knows each circumstance). Some of you may be even more extravagant like a beautiful friend of mine who has not stopped travelling for over 5 years moving from place to place to place on a grand adventure. For each of us home will look differently but the most important thing to remember, to even get away from is the dictionary definition of what home is.
The place where one lives permanently, esp. as a member of a family or household.
Get that out of your mind. It’s a constraint, a lock, a wall.
Home is where you make it, the people you let in and the memories you have and will make.
If what you experienced as home hurt you, than make new memories.
If your childhood home is no longer there, then build a home where you are at now.
If, like me, the physical representation of home changes constantly, feel not weary or displaced but blessed that the world is your home, your family expansive, diverse and full of love.
I think I love the song that says…”home is wherever I’m with you”…
Because YOU are important to me.