I know that not everyone understands the life I choose to live. I understand that the choices I have made are not for everyone.
- I live thousands of miles from my immediate family.
- I quit my full-time job and went back to school.
- I moved to a new country that is FARTHER away from my family (even those in Europe).
- I am 29 and not married (okay, so not completely under my control).
My circumstances are not dissimilar to many of my friends who have chosen to live life in a way that may not seem like the right way to some. Having lived in London for the last few years you do accumulate like-minded friends…
However, I still get a lot of questions, questions that can be perceived as judgmental…
- Why don’t you live closer to your family?
- Don’t you want to get married?
- You’re moving again?
- Going back to school? Isn’t that a bit risky?
- When are you coming/going back to Canada?
To which most of the time my internal voice is yelling, kicking, screaming and wanting to come out with some sarcastic remark but I control myself and just smile.
Please do not get me wrong, I know the questions are (mostly) well-meaning and most of the time people are simply curious…but it can still be taxing…
So to everyone who doesn’t understand…please know this…
Not all who wander…are lost.
God said that he knows the plans he has for me. He has plans to prosper me. He will give me a hope and a future. (Jer 29) He created me. (Genesis) He knows the number of hairs on my head. He is always here for me, whether I go to the depths of the ocean or the far side of the sea. (Psalm) He wants to give me a life abundant and far beyond everything I could ever imagine or dream of or hope for. I am chosen, appointed to bear His fruit (Corithians)
I have been made in His image, to do the work that he planned beforehand…
And my path…is unique to me. I am here for one reason, to show the love of Christ to those who do not yet know Him and the creator of the universe has handcrafted the way that plays out.
And to you…whatever path you are on…it is your path…He has put you exactly where you need to be, as a mother, a father, a brother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, an advocate…whether you never leave the 30 mile radius you grew up in, or leave and never look back.
(sidenote: I have had many conversations with people, in all different circumstances, not just like me, who feel judged or accused because of the way they live their lives).
So, I guess my message is two-fold. Whatever path you have taken, continue to seek God and get to know Him. Love Him and love others…and don’t worry about what others think of your decisions because ultimately we are only accountable to Him. He will direct your path.
And to those who question the choices others make…unless they’re harming themselves or others, please be wise in your questioning of their choices…take a minute and think about what you are asking…
You may not understand what God has asked them to do…