A Time for Everything
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
I was having a conversation with a beautiful friend of mine today. We were discussing the discipline of changing your thought pattern or transforming your mind. In our case the challenge of focusing our hearts and our minds back on Christ and our hope, rather than our current circumstances. Then conversation evolved into whether it was okay to be sad.
Often I don’t give myself permission to grieve or to be sad. I think that I should be stronger than my tears, stronger than my pain, stronger than the hole in my heart. It’s easy to put pressure on yourself to get over the moment, when in actual fact, we need to live in the moment, deal with it so we can move on healthily; becoming the person that God wants us to be. There is a time for each season of our lives.
James 4 states “So submit to God…draw near to God and he will draw near to you…Grieve, mourn and weep. Turn your laughter into mourning and your joy into despair.” (v. 7-9 paraphrased). I reckon it’s okay to be sad but in that we need to give that sadness to God and allow him to be our comfort.
I have learned over the last year that sadness isn’t wrong. Nor is grieving. It is okay to be sad, knowing our hope is not in the temporal but in the eternal. Our peace is not of this world but of the one who has overcome the world. (John 16:33)